Now that I’ve got your attention, what do you see in your mind when the word “sex” is mentioned? An image of Madonna on MTV? A James Bond movie? Cosmopolitan magazine? Or does your mind immediately flash from sex to Scripture? When it comes to sex, Playboy cannot hold a candle to Scripture. If you think that’s an overstatement, just read a few pages of Solomon’s Song of Songs. Tragically, what the Creator purposed to be pristine and pure, the creation has prostituted and perverted. Fortunately, that is not where the story ends. God does not arbitrarily REMOVE things, the REDEEMS them. So will there be sex in heaven? Yes and no. It depends on what you mean by “sex.”
First, by nature or essence, we are sexual beings. Thus sex is not just something we DO. Sex is what you ARE. The foremost reason we can say with certainty that sex will exist in the resurrection is that sex is not merely a word that describes an erotic experience, it is what we are by essence – in the beginning God created us male and female (Genesis 1:27) and that is how it will always be.
Furthermore, we can safely surmise that there will be sexuality in heaven because heaven will personify enjoyment. Men and women will enjoy each other – not in a mere physical sense but in a metaphysical sense. This reality is virtually impossible for a crass materialist to grasp. The materialist views sexual pleasure as a function of fitting body parts together. Christians, however, see humanity as a psychosomatic unity of both body and soul. Thus, we are not solely sexual SOMAS (bodies), we are sexual souls as well. In heaven, the pleasure that the male and female sex will experience in one another will be infinitely magnified, because in eternity our earthly conception of sex will have been eclipsed. In place of SELFISHNESS, we will take pleasure in SELF-LESS-NESS.
Finally, we can safely assume that there will be sex in eternity because God created sex in Eden before humanity’s fall into a life of constant sin terminated by death. Thus, in Eden restored, we can rest assured that God will not remove our sexual nature, but rather He will redeem it. In the new heaven and new earth, sex will no longer be for the purpose of PROCREATION. Nor will it involve sexual intercourse – for “at the resurrection people will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels of heaven.” (Matthew 22:30)
In heaven, we will experience a kind of spiritual intercourse that eludes our grasp on earth. In paradise, romance subverted will become romance sublime. It will be agape-driven rather than animal-driven. In heaven our sexual bodies and sexual souls will fly full and free, unfettered by the stain of selfishness and sin.
Will there be sex in heaven? Again yes and no. Yes, there will be SEXUALITY in heaven in that we will be in heaven – and we by our very nature are sexual beings. And no, there is no warrant for believing there will be SEX in heaven in terms of the PHYSICAL ACT.